Using posture to be aware

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON NOVEMBER 16, 2017

‘The study of asana is not about mastering posture.
It’s about using posture to understand and transform yourself’ – BKS Iyengar

I read this quote and immediately thought well there is how a message gets lost.   I feel many of the great masters lessons are lost and we miss the bigger picture.

So many classes I find so focused on alignment and correcting someone.  It is one thing to help someone see their potential but what I often witness is a student unhappy with themselves; unable to do something and the teacher showing them the horizon, and giving them instructions to keep practicing so they can get there.  Never once suggesting how to be with the present moment. Oh sure teachers will suggest to breathe right now but our thoughts are still busy and being anywhere else but here.

My position is and has been for some time about using the tools and techniques of yoga to be yourself.  Many hear this and think I’m saying give up.  No I’m not –  so listen to it again.  See your true self right now as you are. Because in truth you aren’t broken. You don’t need fixing. You probably don’t believe it.   Kind of like when someone tells you how nice you look; see how quickly you push away the compliment and find some excuse.

Ok you say but what about when I do have an injury?  Aren’t I hurt?  Yes you are but you are also more than that.  Kind of like when you get a cut, it is normal to spend time helping the cut.  But the real healing comes when we can let go of the focus on it.  We put some ointment on it and bandage it.  Surprise comes when we stop putting all our thoughts into it.  The power of the mind is amazing.

Our conditioning in life has us this way.  Watch or listen to commercials and see how much subconscious thoughts are used to make you feel like you need to improve or be more than you are.   Often we spend so much time grasping for a place within our thoughts and we rarely spend time be content or satisfied with where we are now.  Did you ever work hard for some goal in life and found yourself hardly enjoying the conclusion?  Moving instead to the next task.  That is very common because we spend so much time “there” instead of “here”.

The other day I had a young woman come up to me after class.  It was her first time with me and she said “That was quite unexpected.  I think I’ve been doing the wrong yoga for my life”.  I was teaching a yang/yin class but more important she picked up on what I was saying about our negative thoughts and how they hold us back from our potential.

She explained that she works full time and has a part time job and is back in school getting her masters.  Mid-terms are coming up and she is stressed.  She would beat herself up then for not making time to work-out and when she could fit it in, she would do a powerful yoga class hoping to work out the stress.  But it didn’t work out that way.  Instead she isn’t sleeping well and she has anxiety.   We talked about her mid-term and how she could be with her stress.  Stop avoiding being with this moment even when it is tough.  “What is the worst that could happen”?  Maybe some things happen to show us and if let go of trying we release the grip that has been hurting us.  This is very hard because we have to often let go of our ego in this process.

Then we talked about “letting it be”.  Before you can let something go you have to see it.  Being aware of your thoughts is the path to being with yourself right now. Not correcting the thoughts.  Being with them – even when we are hurt, angry, sad or upset.

For example stop right now and for 60 seconds just notice what you are thinking about.

Believe it or not but by pausing to notice, your busy mind just slowed down.  Once you start this practice of awareness start to notice how your thoughts jump to negative places; judgment, fear, blame.

Instead of judging or correcting the thought, you can redirect the negativity by noticing your breath or feeling your hands.  This is a yang way of directing into the present moment into a positive way so we can really see this moment clearly.  Another option is redirecting towards loving kindness by being grateful for having the capacity to be here today.  This is a yin way of being present in the moment.

When I suggested this in a workshop recently I had a woman who has been practicing yoga for a while come up and tell me that she never once took the time to do this.   “I never noticed that all my thoughts are so judgmental”

So back to the quote I have at the beginning of this message.  If we aren’t connecting or “yoking” (the translation of the word yoga) our mind in the posture, and just simply moving around in positions, then we are missing the transformation that yoga can provide.

Just a thought I wanted to share.

Loss Of My Mom – time to let go

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON OCTOBER 17, 2017

I lost my Mom last month.  I was asked by many if it was expected or not.  I always found myself stopping, pausing thinking about that one.

My Mom had me when she was young, 22, and then married.  Almost two years later she had my sister and was raising two kids while my Dad worked at the VA Administration.   It was the time of the Vietnam War and I hardly knew it was going on.  I would walk the halls at the VA and see a room called “agent orange” and had no idea what that was.  It was the 70s and when I think about those times it is scary.  My parents didn’t have guides or instructions.  This was a time when you drove in the front seat of the car without belts. You ate food high in sugar all the time.  The idea of spanking kids was normal in schools.  Years later when I was almost 8 years old my parents left me in-charge to babysit my brother and sister.  8!  I remember at that age being scared to be left alone.  What if someone tried to break in? What would I do? What was the plan?  I slept with my tennis racket by my bed till I was about 17 years old just in case.  It wasn’t until I was 19 that I learned how to make food from scratch.  “What do you mean mashed potatoes don’t come from a box?”

My entire life was spent watching out for my Mom. Parents fighting and cops or first responders coming was quite the norm.   I was looking over her belongings recently from her time as a teen.  I looked at her yearbook, comments and wondered what happened to that girl.  She didn’t have parents herself to guide her and too see what raising a family is like.  How to be a loving person.  She didn’t have family encouraging her to be anything she wanted.  I found some flyers in her things she must have picked up at a job fair.  Late 60’s and she was looking at flight attendant or the Navy.  The navy flyer was addressed to the ladies.  Do do desk work and wear lots of lipstick and call it ‘serving your country’.   That was it for her options as I woman I guess during that time.

She found refuge in alcohol and prescription drugs and being “high” all the time made her both physically and verbally abusive to her kids.  One time she was driving us while drunk and she hit someone and knocked herself out.  They thought it was their fault and yet instead of any of them getting the police, they drove us home.  I sat in the back and placed a cold key at her neck to keep her up.   I was 9 years old.

Till her last moments she never overcame the pain pill addiction.  Without going into a lot of the details though, her health problems have been mounting for the past 9 years.  Before this though she managed to live on her own and had decided to move up to Harrisburg, PA; over 2.5 hours away from me.  One time back around 2004 she had fallen and the neighbor had figured out how to reach me to let me know.  All she could tell me was she was taken in an ambulance the day before.  I called every hospital in that area.   Even one I called said “We are a mental hospital.” I said “Yeah – check anyway”.  When I finally found her she was in Hershey hospital and was treated for a broken wrist but they were holding her longer because they suspected something else was wrong.  She was diagnosed bipolar; which she probably was all her life.  Her life of doctors and therapists and never once was this a conclusion.   She returned home and battled broken wrist, trying to figure out medications, and most of the time taking the wrong ones at the wrong times.  9 years ago though she got a bigger blow.  Her kidneys were failing and she had to start dialysis.   Still smoking and eating a poor diet, she would go three times a week.  Then her colon exploded and had an emergency colonoscopy.  Going home she couldn’t manage on her own and she found a nursing home that was supposed to be temporary but they called me and said “she can’t take care of herself”.  So I started handling her things as her POA.  Sold off her things, cleaned out her home, got her set up at the home.

Finally this summer it got so bad that she decided to start hospice and stop with kidney dialysis.  She couldn’t even sit up on her own.  She was down too 80 pounds.  Still it took a month from that choice for her to pass.  She couldn’t swallow or eat and just withered away to skin and bones.  The person I knew and remembered looked so different. Was frail and hurting.  Still in her last couple of weeks I sat with her and we played songs.  My sister and I just kept thinking of songs from our past and Mom knew all the words.  I knew that this was such an important moment because instead of hating things in the past, we just sat and remembered the good.   It was time to let all that go.    The people at Hospice and the Home were so helpful.  A guitar player came to play for her and he called me one night just to ask about her favorite songs.  “I started crying. I think what you are doing is just amazing” I said.  A Chaplin called me and I finally got someone to offer her a communion which was important to her.   In her final hours my sister, brother and I got to her.  Sitting with her was a volunteer. A stranger who goes to the bedsides of those passing to sit and be there so they aren’t alone.  All I could say is “Wow”.  There are angels here walking around us all the time doing good deeds but you have to look for it because it doesn’t make the news.

I came to grips with the fact that my Parents were kids themselves without much guidance and they made mistakes; like all of us do.  They didn’t know how to be there for me because they didn’t love or like themselves.  My Mom had her own way of trying though.  There are memories of her and I dancing in the living room to musicals.  Her taking me to shows, art galleries and making sure I had my own library card so I could read as much as I wanted.  I think my Mom wanted to do so much more in her life but never did.  Maybe she had regret for having kids so young.

My Mom’s last wish is to be placed with my Dad at Arlington Cemetery and we are waiting to have that scheduled there.  With that private ceremony I hope to place a letter to my parents where I will just forgive and say “good-bye”.   Right now her remains are here with me and I have her by the TV – one of her favorite things to do- watch TV.   My Mom didn’t leave her kids an estate.  I didn’t get to inherit anything.  In the end my siblings and I are sharing the final costs of my Mom burial.    Still I know Karma has provided me so much from my community of love and support.

During my loss so many people showed up for me and I’m forever thankful.  When you are grieving it is a lot to feel and deal with so asking for help is not easy – at least not for me. So many people just showed up.  Put food at my door.  Flowers. Cards.  Would grab me and hold me in a log hug.  Would just call me to say “You are in my thoughts.  Remember Your Mom knew you were a good loving person. She was proud of you”.

This is true.  Although she never showed up to my events, she was always proud.  In the end she was so happy that I was helping others who were addicted or dealing with injury.  I could help others but never get her to see that mild movement will slowly help with the pain and discomfort.  She would try PT but in the end get the nurses to give her medication.

Knowing isn’t enough though.  Why some overcome addiction and others don’t, I may never know.  It isn’t as easy as declaring it is a choice.  There is a lot of hard work and commitment but still I think science has a lot to understand with the mind and its power. Still I hope and won’t give up trying to help those I can and be there to offer support to those still trying.

Pain + Resistance = Suffering

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON SEPTEMBER 4, 2017

I live just outside of the Washington, DC area and started noticing last week, during August, that the weather was changing.   Instead of the hot humid days of summer there was a smell in the air.  I looked up and saw bits of leafs falling and this week noticed the colors just starting to change. I watched squirrels gather nuts and run off to store them.

Of course mentioning change is hard because as soon as I suggest it I’m met with responses that suggest fear or disgust of this.  Even though we know it is coming, I still get those who frown and say “no – I don’t want summer to end”.  Yet it will end though. I can resist it or be with what is happening.  Enjoy the here and now.

I mentioned the beautiful day to a neighbor and she responded that she heard that this winter will be “the worst one yet”.  Ok – so why all the worry about the future or holding onto the past. This is where I am glad for my practice.  Just take a long breathe and remind those responding to come back to now – right now is where we are.

At Kripalu we had a saying “Pain + Resistance = Suffering”  I can’t do much about pain but I can let go of resisting.  If I can lessen that maybe my suffering will be less too.  Just something to consider even in the small acts of responses.

This labor day may you take the moment to reflect on the positive.  It is so easy to get caught in a negative response.  It takes practice to pause and think of a kinder way to be with ourselves and then towards others.  May you feel gratitude for all you have right now.  Jai!

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Fear of Transformation Reading

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON AUGUST 22, 2017

I was reminded yesterday of this reading and just wanted to share it with you.  I remember first hearing about this story when I was going through some major career changes.  No matter the transformation, big or small, we each resist and this lovely story may remind us that we us suffer sometimes just by in holding on tight to where we are and that if we learn to release we may just enjoy floating in the air, even if we miss the next bar or don’t have an idea what we are doing.  I’ve learned to do this a lot in my life now.   Uncertainty and not having a plan all the time is ok.

As I sat to have tea with a friend and we discussed what may be next in our life – we just laughed and said “I have no idea”.  Were just between the trapeze bars.  Floating in the air with the greatest of ease.

Enjoy this reading:

Vacation – Its all I ever wanted…

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON JULY 25, 2017

Reflections of my time earlier this Spring on vacation:

Its here.  Time to relax and I’ve been planning for it for months.  I spent time imagining how this vacation would feel and the moments working up to it were tough.  Its always so hard to get away and leave work and regular life behind. For a moment there I wasn’t sure I would get my work covered but I did.

I spent the day traveling here.  Driving, flying, driving again and I’m finally here.  Unpacked I decide to walk outside and sit on a grassy hill just under a tree where I could lookout and watch the tall green mountains, blue sky and lake in the distance.  I can’t believe I’m here!  I take a deep breath in and smell the clean air.  Then an unexpected feeling floods my body and suddenly I want to cry.  I can feel the emotions building up and I start to push that feeling away.  Silently telling myself – “what is there to cry about?  Stop it!  You have so much to be happy for.”   Justifying my thoughts and even blame my feelings.   “Why should you be unhappy?”

I could see myself go through the motions of avoiding the feelings of this moment.  Even the ways I would use my hand to feather away the tears.  “Oh come on. Really there are people suffering in the world and you are crying.”

Yet crying is just what my instincts knew I needed, so I decided instead to just cry and release.  Tears return along with a fast breath.  I didn’t try to understand it or rationalize.  Just free myself.  Why did I punish myself thinking this was wrong?  Turns out what I thought was going to be a long and scary experience was just about 30 seconds.  I started feeling this moment.  Wait… this isn’t an unhappy feeling at all, but a really joyful. Now I started laughing.   I was suddenly filled with love and joy.  That I knew that this space had just the kind of love and people I needed.  That was really the root of my feelings.  I was so happy to be here.

As I looked around I felt a sense that something had shifted within me.  Maybe not something noticeable to the outside world but I felt it.   After all there is such a fine line between self-awareness and blame.  Between witness and judge.    Between listening and hearing.

My thoughts start wandering to agendas, plans and people.  “What time is it?  I should start to get ready for the workshop.  Oh and I should call home.  Check work email.”  Wait – why?  I had purposely left my phone locked up in the safe in my room.  I didn’t trust myself to have self-control so I locked it up.  I’m not blaming the tools of today but wow do they have a hold on me.  Ok so I tell myself for this vacation I’m going to set up some rules.  I’m only going to check my phone and email twice a day.    I’m going to be more silent. Walk slower.   Maybe I’ll just sit here just a bit longer – there is no rush.  Just witness this day.

Ok.  Now with that time freed up I decided to set one more rule: a conscious decision to stop tasking and just explore this space, people and time.  After sitting there a bit longer I start to stand up, stretch, took a look around and realize I just”landed” there. Present and ready for my vacation; nothing else to do but relax.

Intention – Its time!

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON JUNE 22, 2017

There is a saying “You have a better chance of hitting your target if you aim for it”.  Which brings me to the word “Intention”.  Often confused for a wish.  Totally different though.  I can hope or wish for something but I have a better chance of making something happen if I really aim for it; know I’m going to make it happen.

This has helped me in all aspects of my life.  There are going to be times where life hands you a tough situation and right there you have to remind yourself of your intention and get moving.  Whether I was putting myself through college, becoming a CPA or when I changed my career to a recruiter I used tools.   You are given the project and of course you want it to come out well, but then you need to make it your intension.  I would set up steps to achieve the destination; knowing not only the “to-do” but I would go to my calendar and put the actual time and space for each step.   I remember doing this for the CPA exam.  I knew the date of the exam and I would go to the calendar and mark out chapters to study and review.  Setting up times as well to rest and not study.  So I could look at it on the calendar and see if it was reasonable. Attainable and realistic.

I remember when I started practicing yoga and the teacher would suggest at the beginning of class “now set your intention”.   Now I understand that I was really wishing.  “I hope I can be patient.” “I really would like to master headstand”.   Nobody can pick you intention however your heart is different than you head.  We know what we need verses what we want.  Our ego gets in the way all the time.

Yet knowing and doing is different.  In our hearts we know what is and then we have worry, doubt and fear that appear and that is when hope will loose. But intention will just find a way to get back up again, keep going and not be stopped.

Therefore when trying to do something new and change a habit you need to be realistic with it.  Just like brushing your teeth when you were little, you were probably told to go and brush – it is time.  Then a time came where you started to do it on your own.  Then if you missed it you may have felt or experienced the difference.  Some returned back to brushing and some didn’t and found themselves at the dentist with problems.

So how do we do things we know are healthy but aren’t habits yet?  Just like the brushing teeth example, there are steps and I suggest that if you are trying something new that you find a tool to remind you it is “time”.  I’m not suggesting yoga and meditation be your intention though.  For some walking, painting or reading a book is often healing.  I do suggest go to your calendar and put your intention down as an appointment.  I often set up other appointments like “Start to get ready for yoga” about an hour before the appointment.  This way I can wrap up things and get ready for the appointment.  I change it from wish to I’m going to make this appointment.  My attitude to this changes.

After a while I won’t need this appointment reminder.  I also use my calendar to manage downtime.  I’ll put down “Don’t book an appointment here”. Now I know that the unexpected comes up and emergencies come up.  Which is why I leave gaps and space in the schedule as well.  So lets say you have an emergency pop up – you may have time to move the appointment to later in the day.   You may even want to book some of your “To-Dos” on the calendar.  Time for groceries, cleaning or paying bills.  You can also set up different calendars – ones for work, family and chores and look at them together or one their own. Now you don’t have to leave to remember to do things – they are there to remind you “its time” to do them.

Now I know you are already tired and that what I’m suggesting takes time.  Not tons, but does take time.  But this is time management technique I’m talking about.  It will actually give you time, not take away from it.

Which brings me to the next point…excuses.  Lets consider thinking of life in 4 quadrants.  First is dealing with emergencies and responding.  The second is tackling the “To-dos” and daily tasks.  The third is the goals and time planning.  The fourth is the be in peace, rest and bliss; for some this is going to Church/Temple, charity work, hanging out with friends, yoga/meditation, or dinner with family.   Many simply live in the first quadrant though and we use excuses like “I don’t have time” to ignore the other quadrants.  Always reacting, fixing and being lead by emergencies. Or things we think are emergencies.  Really –  that Facebook news was important to respond too right now?   Don’t blame yourself you are not alone.  There is an increase in stress and anxiety in todays society in the West and we blame the tools but really it was our choice. Even here I have to set my intention. If I’m in my 2nd quadrant time, lets say writing my blog report,  I will put my phone and social tools away.  After all you can turn them off.  Remain focused.  I use the 3rd quadrant for the planning of my calendar and time management time.  Yoga, meditation, concerts and family time for the 4th.  Finding balance in all of them is hard and if you feel overwhelmed you need to consider there is time, stop making excuses and see that you are out of balance.  This isn’t helping you or others at all.

Overtime you may not need to do this time scheduling.  You start to get it.  You know that you need healthy practices to feel good and even on the days where you feel tired or stressed you know that is the day you need it the most.  My husband has gotten used to looking at my calendar and seeing appointments – things that aren’t really places I have to be but just my way of saying “Its time”.  I’ve been using this technique for over 25 years now and I still use it.

Lastly there is a time to listen to yourself and it is ok to miss your appointment. That ok – you can move that appointment and get back on track tomorrow. Be aware of what you need right now.  The calendar is there just to remind you.  You have to see if you are making excuses or really need to stop and take care of yourself.

I hope this helps you hit more targets in your life!

Jai!

#Intention #Target #Yoga #Health #Listen #Awareness #Timemanagement #Tools

Getting some Zzzz’s

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON MAY 24, 2017

I had someone I was working with for a private mediation class.  He and his wife sat with me and they both were new to meditation.   We sat and started off being still with the eyes open or shut, as I give them their choice, and watch the breath.  In about 30 seconds he started breathing so deep that I could tell he was sleeping.  Sitting up!

As we talked he started telling me he doesn’t have a problem sleeping.  Just staying there. I laughed and told him I could already tell.

I had another student ask me for help sleeping.  It is common these days to have this question pop up.   Either people have a problem getting to sleep or remaining there.  There was an article recently that said people who wake up between the hours of 2 and 4 are considered very smart!  Ok – stop trying to make it sound like this is cool.  Because most of us are very sleep deprived.  We need to learn to listen to what our bodies are telling us.

As I sit with those who are having problems sleeping, I ask them about their habits.  Many sleep with their electronics around them.  Ready to read that all important news flash – look who one Dancing With the Stars!

I offer to them to listen.   Listen because you already do know the answer.   Put it away.  Move it across the room.  Leave it outside the bedroom.  Find ways that you can make change happen.  Then I get excuses.  What if there is an emergency?

I would like to introduce you to the sleep mode on your smart phones.  Most have it.  The option to stop signals from a certain time. Even block calls.   Even the ability to pick which calls are allowed to call you and wake you.  So you no longer have to live with that annoying solicitation call waking you up early Saturday morning.  You are in charge – you pick when you want to be interrupted.

Now though that you are in-charge are you ready to take the challenge?  It is one – because you can’t continue blaming the apps and tools.   All these things out there to make us happier or give us more time.  Yet does it really?  Or is this something deeper – from within?

I have a rule that my phone, computer and TV are off by 10pm and if really tired even earlier.  I tell my family “I hope that if there really is an emergency you know to dial 911”.  Funny thing is I started putting my phone away years ago.  Also I also don’t have my settings to give me news updates as they occur.  I pick when I want to see the news.  I can go days without it.  I find if really big news – someone is bound to tell me. So over stimulation of our mind- we have to decide when to turn it on or off.

The Happiness starts from within.  I heard a great statement along this line:  “Some doors only open from the inside.”  That is you making the decision to find your open door within. Choice is yours.

Now – go try sleeping UN-like a baby.  All night long.  Feels so good!

#Sleep #sleeping #stress #PTSD #happiness #tools #tips #suggestions

Nobody said it was easy

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON MAY 18, 2017

So ever since my VAD and stroke years ago I ended up going down the road of many other symptoms and then you are told “here – take this”.  I did that for a bit and managed to stop all.  Except one.

I would have raging heartburn.  All day.  Nothing I did helped.  I talked to my doctor.  Suggestions of various over the counter medication.  I did some but got little relief.  Then I found “the purple pill” Nexium.   It finally helped.  I could go on with my life again!  Yeah.

So for 4 years now I would take it at bedtime.   Just what my routine was.  When I tried to stop taking it, even for a day, the heartburn would return.  I tried cold turkey again back in early April.   As I started investigating more though I found that coming off drugs like this is very hard.  Don’t do it cold turkey.

So I started doing every other day.  Then go longer.  Examining my diet and making my food bigger at lunch and very light at dinner.  I also started seeing that the pain I was having wasn’t really at my chest or heartburn.  Instead it is a sharp stabbing pain  just underneath the ribs.   I have known about the helpful effects of apple cider vinegar but couldn’t think about taking it.   So I found tablets.  I often take these at night.

However in trying to stop, I found the pain to be really bad one day and I remembered learning that mustard helps in a pinch because it has vinegar.  So I got a spoon and swallowed the mustard.  Ugh!  But wait – in about 10 seconds the pain was gone.

Then I got some organic apple cider vinegar.  Now when the pain happens I take that.  Straight up.  I know that many suggest put it in water but I just prefer to get it over and then sip water after.  5 weeks later and I went the longest day without Nexium the other day.  However the pain still happens.   Especially teaching I’ve had to be careful – going upside down is sometimes something that triggers it.

I wish more of us and especially doctors knew about it.  Instead of just suggesting the medicine there should be a time limit and help from the medical field at coming off.  From what I am learning my body has grown used to this drug and the effects I’m having has more to do with coming off it than the heartburn I had coming onto it.

I definitely know I’m still in charge and responsible but I do with more people out there knew more about it.  Facebook groups I’m on for my VAD condition show that many have the same problem.  So many asking the same question – what may help?

From what I have been reading this could still take me months of pain and doing the natural remedies to help before I can see a difference.  So far though I do see some small changes.  So I wanted to post this to just inform others.  The heartburn medication was never meant to be a long term solution.

I am doing other things too.  Diet change – knowing what triggers it – which is almost everything!  Kiefer probiotic.   Ginger tea (love).

Thanks to so many who I have shared this with already.  Times where the pain has been so bad and I couldn’t teach.   I wasn’t ready to go public with this but now I am ready.  I’ll post more on the progress.

Where do you notice the healing?

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON MARCH 24, 2017

I often start my yoga classes asking for any requests or areas of focus.  Just to get an idea of where people are.   I was doing a training recently for working with firefighters and PTSD.   I do teach in group studios but also with those in rehabs as well in corporate spaces.  The training suggested to ask ‘where do you notice any healing happening’ and I like this a lot.  I think we can focus on the glass half empty too much.  Often people are quick to tell me about the areas bothering them only, which I do need to know for sure.  But when we hyper focus in on the painful area only, that is when we start to feel that is all we are.

So I’m going to start asking this question and how it helps.  I have also found myself doing less focus on specific areas of the body.  Fact is it has always bothered me to think  of a pose as a hip, shoulder or other body part.  We are using it all.  Instead of telling the student where to focus I want to encourage them to feel it.  Notice it.  Where do you feel the healing happening?  “If you aren’t using your whole body here – ask yourself why not”.

I am seeing that so many people come to yoga but really aren’t engaging everything.  So their habit is just supported by pushing into the same area they are familiar with.  Often using one side of the body more than the other; letting the joint support all the weight.  Once I can get them to pause, move slowly and use their muscles all over their body they seem to understand themselves more.

But at the same time I hate too focus so much just on the mechanics.  There is a magic that is there that is lost when all we do is focus on what we can see.  Feeling the living breathing pose.  Feeling it just as it is right now – imperfect and lovely!

May you spend some time today enjoying just where you are right now in the present moment.  Feel where the healing is within you.

Stillness reveals

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON FEBRUARY 23, 2017

So many new things happening here in America and with it so many groups and parties out demonstrating, yelling, marching and posting up their views.  I love this freedom we have here in America; because historically mankind has often been killed for demonstrating different views.  When we can demonstrate peacefully it is amazing.

So last month I went to the Woman’s March.  I walked alone in silence to witness, listen and watch.  I’m glad I did.  So many came to DC from parts all around the world.  I listened to them share their stories about their travels to their friends.  One group spent all night driving there and had just arrived about 2 hours before.  They were tired but ready to march. I watched people scream with laughter to find their friends and hug them.  Many police and military there seemed to share in the day and many thanked them for their service.

It was crowded and many parts of the mall still had large gates to keep the traffic from going into the street so that meant pedestrian congestion as we tried to form a line to walk out of the exit.  Here we are in a peaceful loving protest but many were pushing and wanting to rush to get ahead of others.  Human nature; we miss the little things all the time.

Which is why I remained in silence.  When we do so we can listen more but also we aren’t busy thinking up our responses either.  We aren’t playing out the story in our mind that we want to say back.   We are just holding space to listen.

I sat under a tree and listened to the speakers.  Many spoke with such anger and insults to strike back because they are hurting.  I also heard one group next to me busy talking about all about how awful “the Republicans” are.  On and on with the blame.  If only it was that easy.

We like to group things and push it away because it makes it easy for us to deal with.  Yet we forget the facts.  Fact is many democrats voted for Trump and many Republicans didn’t.  I walked past the Trump Hotel where many wanted to take selfies of them flipping off the hotel.  Some of the staff of the hotel were out front helping to valet and get cabs for the guests of the hotel.  I watched people yell at the hotel staff for working there.

However past the anger and fear what I remember for the most part was a lot of strangers together who put aside their differences – even if they didn’t know it.  They may not have realized different parties, types and genders were there but they were.   I saw groups from health care, schools, States and organizations, and Men who walked to share kindness with each other.

Nonviolence is hard.  Mahatma Gandhi and Dr King talked about nonviolence much.  Just when you think you are acting in nonviolence you have to examine your action.  If the act causes harm, even to those you dislike, it is violent.  One harmful act, no matter if you felt they deserved it, does not mean it is justified.

As I was leaving the march Mr Trump was coming back to the White House and we had to stop for a while and wait for security to pass.  As he passed many yelled, made gestures and names to his car.  Being in silence it allowed me to be still – no response was required.  Was quite amazing to watch and see that I don’t have to agree with the White House but all the name calling and anger isn’t going to help me either.   I simply moved on and was quite calm and peaceful.

In Yoga and Meditation we learn to witness our responses.  Why?  First off because it is human nature to have our responses but if I learn to pause for a moment I may be able to hold back from doing something I regret.  Harm.   All the anger isn’t helping and often you are hurting yourself with it.  You’ve tried screaming, yelling and mean gestures and did that let go of the pain?  Did it make you feel better?  Did it solve the problem?   Isn’t it time to consider something else?

Now for those ready to respond and tell me about marches and protests that made change, please understand that is not what I’m talking about.  It isn’t “What” it is “HOW” you do the action.  I suggest you go back to an ancient book called the Gita and read it.   We can go into battle but it is our action, how we Yoke, that makes our intensions healing or harmful.

We often live in our thoughts and with that comes our first instinct to respond.  Do it long enough and you really start to believe that is all there is.  It is times like this when you will have to seek out positive people, consume good energy and stories to balance out your thoughts.  It can be in the little things.  I was sitting outside about a block from the White House last week and enjoying the sun.  I stranger walked by saying “You look peaceful”.  We struck up a conversation and I’m so glad we did.  We talked about Meditation and how he has started a company to help the kids in the schools. He was taking action to do something.  I may never see him again but it is the moment to moment experiences in your day that you have to look out for.  Don’t let something like that just pass you by because you are busy reading the news.

Bridging the Transition

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON JANUARY 18, 2017

Transition is so hard.  We often have strong reactions to transition.  We will drift into our fantasy or stories about the past or dream about the future.  Having hopes or wishes is not a bad thing however it important to notice when we do too much mental analysis.  Often we spend too much time in our thoughts.

When faced with transition we will respond.  Either push it away or deny it; would rather hold onto what I had or have right now.  Resist that it is changing.  Or we can’t wait for it to change.  Ready for the future right now.  Think about it over and over.  But when the moment comes we aren’t really there.  We are still ahead of ourselves.  Or worst yet we get to that goal and still blame, judge or have an excuse.  Another common response is to be indifferent.  Bored in other words.  We check out of now and start to develop a mental task list of something we think is important. “I have to remember to get the milk”.   We are more than our thoughts though.

Now saying this and recognizing it is really hard.  If it was easy everyone would be doing it.  It isn’t important to stop our responses though.  Many of you know I teach a specific meditation called Mindfulness.  However many I’m finding really don’t know the difference with this compared to other Meditation practices.  First of all, there are many styles of Meditation.  Think of it like dating.  There are many styles and one may not fit all.   My preferences can change as well.

So let me briefly explain Mindfulness.  Mindfulness is not set on relaxing or destressing.  Yes it may do this but it also many not.  Instead of tuning out – we turn in.  By turning directly into now we may take notice of our reactions and pause.  See exactly what is there right then.  Sometimes what is there is not always peaceful or calming.  So you want to make sure that you do this safely.  If you have had a trauma find an experienced teacher.  A video or phone app won’t be able to watch and help you safely.

So why practice Mindfulness?

Sometimes by seeing what is there we can strip away some of its power. A common way I do this is just in daily life.  For example take me in busy Washington, DC traffic.  Here I am driving in heavy traffic.  Suddenly there is a stop.  I can see for miles break lights and stopped traffic.  “What is going on?  Why have we stopped?  I wonder how long this will take.  Will I be late now?”  As I pause I can start to feel my chest and my breath shorten.  I reach for the radio to catch the traffic report.  It reports nothing.  “Of course”.  “I wonder which lane I should be in that will move faster.  Maybe I should get out of this lane.”  Now I have to deal with what is here, which has human nature all around me.  The cars that also have drivers that are upset; so they honk, try to cut in and out and some start to smoke a cigarette in hope that it will calm down. Everyone caring only about themselves.  “I have someplace I have to be”.  “I should have taken a different route” I think to myself.  “I should have left earlier”.  When I use the word Should I call it “Shoulding all over myself”.  It has become my word to stop and notice.  Sure it is helpful to set goals and notice – maybe next time do something different. However life will always toss things at me that I can’t avoid.  So sometimes I have to see it and be with right now.  Just as it is.  It is a hard place sometimes to be.

So when I let go of the reactions, even of fixing or resolving here is what happens…. I go past my intial reactions.  What can I do right now?  Lets see.  I turn off the radio. Look up at the sky.  “It is an amazing day”.  “I’m so glad I have a cozy car to sit in.”  “You know if you are late, others will be late too.  There is nothing you can do about it – simply call management and let them know.”  However not all my reactions will be stress releasing.  Sometimes I drift into worry again.  “I hope we move soon because I have to use a restroom.”  “I really wish the person in front of me would move and get off their phone”. “What does that bumper sticker say?”  Finally I get past the accident.  “I hope everyone is alright”.  Then I move on.  Of course often that is to the next traffic problem.  Then I have to repeat.

Sometimes viewing around me doesn’t help though to steady my thoughts.  So I let out a big breath or big scream.  Yes you heard me – scream.  I let it go. Also sounds help me to release.  Feels so good and then I start laughing.  Deep inside there are places this starts to help including the tightening of my legs, stomach and intestines.  If I’m lucky my sister will be around and I can call her.  Laugh and remind myself that I’m just this little spec and the universe is so large.  There is more than my traffic problems.  If she isn’t around maybe I can find a song that makes me feel happy and sing to that.

Now I get that not everyone practices Mindfulness but what I described can be done by everyone. It doesn’t mean I am perfect and walk around all day thinking about peace and love.  But with practice I can shorten the times of anger and fear and lengthen my experience with healthy good feelings; which impacts my wellness.

So here we are in the US right now going through the shift of power as our US President is changing. Big transition is happening.  Some are happy about it, others not at all and others are indifferent.  That is reactions.

In my case I don’t quite like it.  I want to hold onto what we have right now.  I don’t understand how we got here and sometimes I’m off worried about what will happen later.  I see it, but  I also don’t have to spend all my time in my head or thoughts. I also don’t need to watch the news all the time.  My reactions are what I’m responsible for.

I will be at the Woman’s March this Saturday and I’m sure many will have various reasons for being there.  Mine are to walk in silence to witness the day.  Also silence is quite an amazing experience to have.  If have never done a silent retreat or day of silence try it.

This Saturday I’m planning on taking in the day, notice all the love and sisterhood/brotherhood around me.  I won’t be worried about my phone or social media to capture the moment.  I will be in the moment.  I also find when around a lot of noise and people that being still or silent helps me deal with the stimulation.

I’m hoping that for Saturday we can come together, with all of our differences and demonstrate that each of us are in-charge.  Each can make change happen.  The person in the White House is working for us as well as those in other elected positions. So my intension for demonstration is not out of fear or anger but with love and compassion.  With less resistance to transition or change maybe we can let go of the pain that has reared itself physically within; ie shallow breath, tight chest, lack of sleep or short temperedness.

Maybe we can just let that shit go …. or more importantly let that IN.

A very full year 2016

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON DECEMBER 21, 2016

This was a very full year; full of ups and downs for sure. I had a number of people close to me pass away unexpectedly.  A number of yoga studios close.  One studio closed and wasn’t able to pay me for two months of work so I spent months working extra just to catch up.  Yet the closings opened up some new areas.  I found myself in teacher training on Yoga Nidra and thinking about paths I want to take for 2017.  I finally made it to Yogaville and had an amazing time on retreat there. Of course there was also the disappointment with our Presidential Elections.  Still I have found myself in the healing business and that there are many who need help now more than ever so I’m glad to be able to help.

I finished teaching at some places this past week that I will not be continuing in 2017.   I have new opportunities and it was tough at first to explore them.  I had to let go of where I was to let myself take on something new. Practicing unattachment meant not simply holding onto a class just because I like the students there.   Still it was sad saying good-bye.  I feel I’m relaxing more into the change that happens with my schedule; even more when you have a job like mine.  Each week changes and when I started this journey teaching full time just last year, I kept thinking it would become regular but I really don’t think that is meant happen.  So I just let go of that way of holding onto the hope that it would.

Instead it has been good to remember that I practice yoga with the same idea in mind.  I can live in the fantasy that it will be something someday or I can just be right here.  Truly in the moment.  I found myself just enjoying some of the last classes this past week and knowing that so many shared with me their feedback on how I helped them this year.

Often when I teach I won’t know everyones journey so it was nice to hear how the practice helped them.  One shared with me that her Father died earlier this year and she didn’t want to come to work to talk about it.  She shared that there were days she was so down and depressed  but the idea that she would have yoga in the middle of her day helped her so much. Another student shared with me that her workplace she has been going through so much stress and pressure; she has lost a number of staff and the workload has increased onto her.  Yet the weekly meditation has helped her to focus on staying present.  Lets not focus on what was or what will be.  “This too shall pass.”

While saying goodbye to some I’ve also had some return as well into my life.  One student used to see me at a studio that closed earlier this year.  She tried other studios close to her but found me at another location.  She surprised me with her feedback because I didn’t get the sense she liked my class.  She was always quick to tell me that she just wants the exercise.  Never wants more than an hour.  “I wish you would have us hold plank pose longer”.  “Less meditation please”.  But instead she found that she likes originality more and said that my Sunday class is her gift to herself.

I’m sure I wasn’t able to help everyone I met and I’m sure I’m not everyones’ cup of tea but my intension was just to let the yoga or meditation do its thing.  I’m just a guide and definitely not taking credit for the results but if I can hold that space and help one person find their internal healing nature – then I’m quite happy.

I’m excited to see where 2017 takes me.  I’ve learned that just when I start to worry about my schedule it opens another avenue for me so I toss it up as I’m waiting for God to lead me. Especially with a few open times I have in 2017.  Not worried though – so far it has taken me on an fun ride.  I do hope to travel more and teach and maybe even organize a small retreat.  Lets see what happens.  Just tossing this out into the universe.

May you have a wonderful holiday, new year and I’ll hope our paths cross in the future!  Jai!

Doctors Orders

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON DECEMBER 15, 2016

So in the past couple of weeks I’ve had many new students come to yoga and meditation and they explained their anxiety, depression and stress.  They told me that their Doctor suggested yoga or meditation.  I was so happy to hear this of course. They also said their doctors tried giving them some techniques in these practices to do at home or suggested  phone apps to use.  Instead the student decided to do some research and ended up there with me.

Although I’m happy that they ended up in the right style and form to help their medical issues I worry that so much of the medical field still has so much to learn about what they are suggesting.  Simply saying “Go to Yoga or Meditation” is too vague.  I wouldn’t suggest an ear doctor to someone with a heart condition. Also I worry that those doctors suggesting these practices are teaching techniques to their patients and I wonder if they have been trained in them and even practice them themselves.

I really wish more doctors would network and get to know the alternative compliment to medicine more and see it beyond just the physical but as another method that helps the emotional and mental sheaths of the healing process. I think we would all be helping the patients more if we worked together vs individually on our own.

I’m so glad that the young students I spoke too trusted their instincts enough to keep searching and found their answers. I’m also glad their doctors could suggest something beyond the regular answer of prescriptions.  Just like a patient who tries self-diagnosis by going to the internet, the same applies to suggesting that as an answer with other healing methods.  Sometimes we need someone who is specialized, educated and licensed in an area.

Meanwhile I will continue to work on breaking down this barrier that keeps us all separated from different areas of healing practices.

Why stillness?

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON NOVEMBER 29, 2016

So in the past week alone I have taught a couple of young ladies how to meditate along with teaching them yoga.  One was a young 21 year old who has just started coming to yoga about a month ago.  She came to yoga nidra the other night and as we were leaving she left the studio and said “have these pictures always been here?”  I smiled Yes they have.  That is the practice.  The stillness has a profound impact on our awareness.  We improve our awareness and with that our senses are clearer.  So seeing, smelling, hearing and feeling improve.  So in one class she was seeing things she had walked by without any thought so many times before.  Then she shared with me that during the meditation where I had her imagine a flower she saw a caterpillar on her flower. She said then it changed into a butterfly and flew away.  Being still we can tap into other parts of our mind that we weren’t paying attention too.  I love that she was so aware of the experience and shared it with me.  I know she is dealing with a lot in her home life and the gentle yoga and nidra are helping her to find places of stillness.

For me that is just what meditation has done for me.  It has allowed me to stop doing what human nature often does, which is blame, avoid, deny or push away.  Instead I have learned to pause the conversation or thought and turn towards the experience.  As if you were heading into it and saying “come on – I am not afraid to see you”.  By being with the here and now we learn that it won’t destroy us and it will move on and change.

Another woman is at a drug/alcohol rehab center and I’ve been working with her for the past month in yoga classes.  This morning though we did a bit of seated but slow moving meditation. She often tries so hard in class and I’ve seen a big improvement in her.  She allowed herself to make mistakes and play today.  She explained to me after class that she lost more weight which has her so worried because she is dealing with an eating disorder and therefore dealing with this frustration.  Then she said that even though I didn’t mention it, while we were meditating the vision of a willow tree came into her mind.  She said the willow tree bends and allows itself to go with the wind but always comes back to the middle.  Again I smiled and she remembered the yoga lesson of tree I taught her before.  Not a perfect tree – but one that changes.  So she said all day today she was going to remind herself about the willow tree and stop being so focused on what she isn’t.

Embracing who we are right now, just as we are, imperfections and all, is the practice.  Instead of focusing on being someone else or a different or better version of ourselves, the practice embraces that we are already there.  We are already so many wonderful things if we just stopped long enough to be still and see it.   Also we have an innate healing if we let ourselves let go of resisting the change.

Still under the Glass Ceiling – Grief After the 2016 Elections

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON NOVEMBER 9, 2016

Yesterday was the 2016 Presidential Election. I was so excited to witness history and the first woman voted as President.  I was particularly happy that for many we didn’t just vote for her because she was a woman.  I read my own research, compared what each candidate has dedicated their life too and thought others saw past the marketing to see the core of a persons character.   But I was wrong. I came home after a long day of working and found myself shocked.  I let out a big “WTF!” and my dogs ran and hid under the couch.  Then I became silent. I couldn’t talk for hours.  Then around 1am I just gave myself permission to stop justifying and get down to the core of what I was feeling.  Then the tears came.

This is grief for many.  This is what it is and feels like.  The shock and disappointment.  There have been many comments out there trying to logically discuss what happened, why and how to move past it.  Some messages directly to me to say it “isn’t a big deal” or others feel this way too.  No doubt, but maybe you are missing how to deal with grief in a healthy way.  All the logical words don’t help.  All the comparisons or hearing your story may be nice but still doesn’t help.  This is just something we have to let ourselves feel and experience.  There is a time for healing and if you don’t do it, you bottle it up and hold it for later to explode.  There are many layers and emotions involved.

So please stop telling me how to feel or why I should move on.  I’ll do so when I am ready and for now I am hurt, sad and mad.  I have a right to feel this way.  Instead just listen and be silent.  (Did you know the same letters are used in listen as in silent?)  If you really want to help – just hold that space for me and maybe give me a hug.  Nothing else is needed.

Amazingly enough at the Democratic area last night if Hillary had won they had her on a stage built with a glass ceiling.  I would say we are still far from breaking past that ceiling and for that I’m sad for ALL women in this country.

“Oh no not I; I will survive”

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON OCTOBER 26, 2016

For 25 years I worked in corporate offices in Washington, DC.  Long hours of eating lunch at my desk, late hours and constant deadlines.  Bosses who wanted to know that they saw you at your desk from morning till night; seen but not heard.

Then I started watching those around me who were coming in early but hanging out at other desks to talk for a couple hours, then go grab a coffee next door and then around mid-day get some work done.  Then in the afternoon they would find another place to hang out where the boss couldn’t see them and work the football pool.  Then maybe at the end the day do some internet searches and social posts.

If you have ever seen the movie “Office Space” the reason it holds up, is that it touches the truth.  There is a part where the lead actor explains his day doing about an hour of “actual work.”

When I started a regular yoga practice in the early 2000’s I worked all day and even missed lunch just so I could get out to an evening of yoga class.  Rushing in traffic to just get 75 minutes to myself.   I knew I needed it both physically and mentally.  Yet leaving the office to help my mind and body  wasn’t something that bosses viewed positively.  In fact they thought the person working late was working harder. Corporate America still has a way to go at understanding how to quantify the value of someones work.  Is it the quality or quality?  Also if someone left for a happy hour event that was viewed as networking so that kind of event was viewed as acceptable to leave for at the end of the day.

I wish I could say it has changed but so many I teach yoga or mediation today are dealing with the same struggles.  Additionally they know that their bosses need the practice just as much…if not more.

Years of my struggles has taught me this much:  Don’t tell them you are leaving for a wellness practice.  Don’t save a space on your work calendar that says “yoga”.

Nope just find yourself walking out the door and tell them you are going to a “professional development meeting” instead!

“Go on now go…walk out the door” They will survive and by the way….so will you.

“…Did you think I’d lay down and die?
Oh no not I, I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love, I know I’ll stay alive
I’ve got all my life to live
And I’ve got all my love to give
I’ll survive
I will survive
Hey hey”   –Diana Ross “I will Survive”

Breathe in the air; don’t be afraid to care

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON OCTOBER 14, 2016

I was driving to Yogaville last week for a workshop and it is about a three hour drive south from my home outside of Washington, DC. Leaving my area I started to see the transition as very large Trump signs were in many of the yards.  Most of the yards were large country estates, plantations, wineries and horse breading homes.  I started wondering about those that live there and what makes them so afraid and worried; as Trumps main message is based on “Make America Great Again”.   From the looks of things though, without judging, these people didn’t appear to have a worry; from what I could see they were doing quite well.

So often we forget that money alone can’t bring us peace.  Once we have money we worry about loosing it.  “First world problems” make us forget that it could so easily be worse and that peace and happiness has to be a choice you make.  There are those in third world countries with so little who are extremely happy individuals.

Learning to pause more helps us filter our first commentary and reaction.  In my case it helps to just stop,  look around and see how wonderful things are. Be grateful.  I don’t have to wait for someone to offer me this- I can be the one to make the world a peaceful and loving place with my actions, words and deeds.

No doubt this is difficult because of the world we live in; social media, news, radios, electronics with us each moment of the day to let us know immediately what is happening.  Therefore we have to be more selective in how much we take in and how often we log “on”.   For example,  I often drive without the radio on or I listen to calm music.  Because I can see  what happens if overstimulated from sound;  tension increases in my body when I’m in traffic and I find myself making very quick and silly reactions – “What a stupid idiot- can’t you see the light is green!”  Oh wait…. deep breath.

Going away on retreat was amazing.  If you have never done this I suggest it.  Even for a sort weekend.  If it isn’t something you can afford find a way even on your off time at home to find a way to get out of routine. Get around people who are “like minded” and be around loving presence to help your body, mind and spirit.  It doesn’t mean we have to ignore what is happening in the world but we also have to find ways to turn off the negativity; listening only to that isn’t healthy either.  In fact it isn’t balanced at all.

Sure, we wish others would learn to filter their thoughts before they spoke and said stupid things.  Imagine if Trump and Billy Bush had just paused before they talked and thought about what they were saying.   More importantly if they thought about why they felt they had to talk that way?  Grabbing someones private parts is not cute, funny or kind.  i.e. “Maybe I can stop before I speak” to see that deep down I’m seeking approval by having to hurt or put someone else down.   Pause there and see another persons side and practice using the brain past the ego.  As you do this more it will be quite natural.   I call it brain exercise – like physical muscle exercise you have to work it out and practice.

Still I can’t control or wish that everyone was doing this; all I can control is my own action.  Meditation is the way for me to practice, build and grow the development of my mind.  I had a student this morning who told me at the beginning of yoga class that he doesn’t meditate.  Yet after the class he was sharing with me that he liked a point I made; that we can each find a way to just stop and listen around us.  That may be 2 minutes in bed or sitting in the car to pause before I go into work, or sitting outside and taking in nature.  He said he has learned to take the headphones off and just take a walk around his neighborhood.  I smiled and told him “that is great! BTW, that is Meditation.”     So even when we react with “I don’t” or “I can’t” I can learn to hear that comment and see that I’m more than that.  Put in more Maybe’s in my life instead of so much certainty.

Like I mentioned earlier though choices are what we have.   I have found places when I do go on-line to read positive news articles.   So where do you get the news of good activity in your life?  Is there any way that you can help someone or your community? Although you disagree with someone’s politics can you hold back on name calling to see that they too are more than that?   That pause to filter out our comments and reactions so we can stop thinking that we are all so different and see our similarities instead.

Just a thought.

What do you do?

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON SEPTEMBER 16, 2016

I traveled recently to the mid-west with my husband for his 30th high school reunion; meeting many new and amazing people. Having all the polite conversations for days; What do you do? Where do you live? What have you been up too? Any kids? Family still here in the area?

I found myself anticipating just when my husband would tell them that I’m a yoga teacher. I could feel myself tense up and realize that the next response is usually “I need to exercise more” or “I just can’t calm my mind to do yoga; its not for me”.  I just smiled and didn’t respond. How can I explain the uniqueness and magic of the practice in a loud and crowded room?  Inside I was wishing that instead of us labeling ourselves we could really go into who we are vs. what we do for a living.

I’m sure I’m not alone. I’m sure that there are many this happens too in many professions. In Washington DC it is quite normal to have the first question out of our mouth be “What do you do?”  As if we need to qualify if the person we are about to talk too is worth our time.  You say who you are by the kind of work you do and then the normal response from many is to equate by association with your experience. Instead of responding by asking more about that persons reason for doing what they do or why they enjoy what they are doing, we immediately turn back to ourselves.  Our egos take over and suddenly we are there boosting up our careers or jobs for the approval of others.

It reminded me of something Yoga Master Teacher Max Strom once said. He once said in a workshop I took that he was tired to traveling and telling a stranger on his flight that he was a yoga teacher. You have to overcome the obstacles and stereotypes. So instead he would tell them that he makes people feel good with their bodies and minds by teaching them to breath better. I admit that when I was a recruiter I did the same thing. If I told people I was a recruiter they would often say “oh a headhunter”. I would joke back – “sure but make no mistake, I want the entire body”. But I learned how to describe what I do first vs the title of what my role is to avoid being shut down by others.  If people get to know the person first they often can move past their habits and have a new or different experience.

I think I may have to do this more because Yoga Teacher is too generic as there are so many styles and kinds of yoga here in the West. I’m not a therapist by license but I know that what I’m doing is not simply exercise focused. For me the physical fitness is just a by-product of something much deeper.

I read a quote from Sarah Powers (A Founder of Yin Yoga) who said “My style is a cross pollination of Buddhism and Psychology which I have come to call Insight Yoga”. I think this is the closest to describing my style which is to combine mindfulness and awareness into the yoga. Breath is far more important to me than asana.  Each moment being reminded to bring awareness into now and our breath is just one tool that helps us do this. I also love talking about human nature and how our brain works so people can learn and possibly form some new habits.

The trip traveling across the country was a quiet time for me – as I was in the car 13 hours with my husband and two dogs – I found myself just enjoying the ride, looking out the window to see the farms and fields, and not being on-line. I found myself meditating on the next steps I want to take in my Teacher Training. What ways do I want to help others in my career?  I’ve been working with many injuries, rehabs and body types especially over the past year that are different for me and really have me grateful to teach yoga outside of just the studios and gyms.

Of course we all need a time out from our daily routine but it is good to return and get back to my routine. I’m still unsure of routes to take. Time and Cost are the biggest issue now that I earn less income as a teacher. I’d love to pursue Yoga Therapy but that is a $13k expense for almost 5 years. Next is learning to teach Military Vets. Also specializing more with Yin Yoga – as I would love to be trained by Sarah Powers after reading so much about her. I will continue to meditate on this and see where it takes me. That is something I love doing and when I can let go of what I want and see where it takes me I’m never disappointed.  More to come…

Labor Day week 2016

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON SEPTEMBER 6, 2016

I’ll admit it… August was a busy month for me.  I found myself subbing for many and some emergencies.  So I overdid it a bit.  I quickly saw that I would be busy every day in the month so didn’t do much else to maintain my health.  I taught in some new places and instead of worrying about what I had to do all day I just focused on now.  Just focus on the person there.

I think when you first start teaching you have a lot to learn so the first thing you do is quote what others have told you.  Something happens though along the way that lets you sprout out on your own.  The past year especially teaching full time I found my own voice – as they call it.  I can’t recall each sequence or what I said – I just let it rise and then let it go. I trust that when I speak from my heart it will come back with something helpful and useful to the person I’m teaching.

This past week I found several students express that there is something in the environment in my classes that makes them return.  That isn’t just me alone but the credit to all there.  I encourage everyone to greet each other, say “hi” and make eye contact which is a big deal in a busy city like DC.  But this is important to share because I think even as teachers we can go about our day, busy in our own thoughts and we need to step aside, show up early, plan and make a space that has a feeling and environment that is safe, peaceful and comfortable for those we teach.   We need to stick around after to be there for those we teach as well.  I love coming 10 to 15 min early – talk to the front desk, get to know students, take a tempter of the energy coming into class.  I love talking after to see how each student is feeling – even if it is just a smile.   I may have a plan of what I want to teach before I get there but that may go out the window depending on who is there and the energy.

September changes for my schedule but I have some new classes in meditation and I’m excited to be more regular with my schedule again.  I have some workshops too so I plan to use my downtime from subbing to plan for upcoming events.   Fall is coming and I’m getting ready with new Vata sequences and Mindfulness focus.

Enjoy your week and if you want to reply to me directly or comment feel free. I do read and respond.

May you find peace in your day.

Can you feel it?

BY PAIGEDCYOGA ON SEPTEMBER 1, 2016

I teach some faculty at Georgetown University Yoga and the other day we were leaving the class together and walking through the campus.  There was a lot of activity going on as students are about to start their new season of classes.   I asked the faculty earlier in yoga class if they had felt the change in the season today?  Not just the busy campus but that you could sense the beginning of Fall and change in the air.  They looked at me like I was crazy.  “Its still hot out – feels like summer to me”.

As we left together and walked though the campus I asked them to smell the air.  “Do you smell that?”  We stopped and looked at some trees.  The leaves are starting to change color and dry for Fall.  The sun seems to be setting sooner today.  By pausing and stopping to notice we could feel change happening. Often though we are too busy to stop and feel it.

When you can feel an experience though it takes you away from the busy thinking mind and lets us just be in that moment.  Not avoiding but just let ourselves be a witness to it.  We improve our ability to be aware more and with that our senses are able to communicate to our mind/brain past the reptilian response that we live in; I call it brain exercise.   If you don’t use it you loose it.  You loose the ability in the brain function. Which I see in many in little ways – forgetting which side is their left or right.

Beyond the asana that I taught the faculty that day, I was so glad that we had that walk in campus together to improve our awareness and feel that moment.  Was amazing!